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Heartbreak - Volume 2: The Brain in Love

$11.99

Heartbreak is a triple loss At first, the physical absence of the partner seems like the only cause of our suffering and one is under the illusion that if he or she would only come back, all would be fine again. It is truly an illusion because there are three absentees in the drama of heartbreak. The first is the beloved, and even if that person were to come back, the second, the person you were with the beloved, and the third, the person you were for the beloved, are never coming back. This triple loss explains the loss of a sense of identity. Individuals suffering heartbreak have nightmares of losing their nametag, passport, car keys, of being lost in a strange city, of walking in a cemetery and reading their name on a funeral monument, of having no voice, no head, no body, of coming to work and somebody else's name is on the door of their office, or coming home and their mother asks them to introduce themselves... all are metaphors of an estrangement from the self. The only solution is to become somebody else. Philosophers have argued that our identity is a psychosocial construct, a compromise between what our parents want, what society wants, and what we think we want. Since identity is a construct, it follows that is can be deconstructed. The myth of the divine rights of kings is a perfect example of a deconstructionist attack on a value that was no longer sustainable. Heartbreak is a similar demolition derby of an obsolete identity. The lover, a mirror who used to reflect a positive image of yourself, now reflects nothing, or if it does, it is a tarnished, ugly picture that communicates, "sorry, but you are no longer adequate." The identity built to attract and relate to the partner is a dead cable connector. Heartbreak is such a rough deconstruction that it is felt at first like a death of the self. There is a word for that feeling: alienation, which means a separation from oneself. This book helps you answer the following question: "if I cannot be who I was, who can I become?" Invent, discover, imagine, try, and become that new person. Table of Content CHAPTER 1 BYPASS YOUR SYNAPTIC BUNDLE OF FEAR The three actors in your drama Your crocodile psychology: grab, grip, hit There you are my crocodile! Your puppy psychology: beg, whine, wait. Your regression to a preverbal vulnerability Attachment theories There you are my puppy! The wolf separated from the pack the broken heart syndrome The art of consoling Neuromania and Darwinitis Is it in my genes, my brain or my soul? Becoming a wise human The inner and the outer CHAPTER 2 NEUROSCIENCE AND THE UNCONSCIOUS My life in a copter The end of the behaviorist dominance You can't repair the past The slave complex No ego, no Self, no identity. CHAPTER 3 WHAT YOU MOTHER NEVER TOLD YOU I am a champion procrastinator I am dependent but won't admit it I feel inadequate but cover it with uppityness Unload some projections CHAPTER 4 AH! JEALOUSY Rivalry can be a factor of evolution You don't own the partner Beware of psychic inflation There is a way around jealousy Is it envy or jealousy? CHAPTER 5 RELATIONSHIP ADDICTION The realm of the invisible Heartbreak is a triple loss CHAPTER 6 NARCISSISM: A TREND AND A CURSE The rage of a baby Learn to smell a narcissist The narcissist as a self-loathing individual The narcissist as a self-adoring individual The trophy partner: narcissism by another name Monica, the figid beauty queen The cashmere label

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9780692587850
Publication Date: 
2015-12-01
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Illumination: A Living Voice

$15.00

A conversation with James Hillman and bell hooks

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230252
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Heartbreak - Volume 1: Detatch or Die

$15.99

The psychosomatic pain of heartbreak and mourning shows neurobiological evidence of stress similar to being submitted to torture. With time, the intensity of the pain may lessen, yet it is false to think that time heals all wounds! Many live the rest of their life with a captive heart, alone in the emotional desert of psychic numbness. The first challenge is to become aware of the instinctual fear that makes us say "if you leave me, I'll-die." This fear poses a logical problem because to overcome it, you must learn to survive without the partner, which is precisely what you fear! You are like a patient who has been shot by an arrow? Cupid's arrow ?but is afraid to let the doctor pull it out. Living with an arrow sticking out from your chest makes life impossible. Recovery is not, as so many popular self-help books suggest today, an ego decision to move on. Recovery is the opposite of a willful decision, the opposite of an emotional shutting down which only mimics detachment. At the beginning of heartbreak, the brain reacts like that of a drug addict suddenly deprived of his or her drug. The behavior of the love-crazy is similar to that of the addict desperately searching for a fix. Hooked on hope, your brain is in a panic mode. Love is at the core of depressive, suicidal and murderous states. For the brain, lack of love, lack of food, lack of sleep, or a pit bull jumping at you are all kinds of threats. How you respond impacts not only your health but your destiny as well. In other words, either emotional suffering turns on the evolutionary switch, or your emotional shutting will destroy your capacity to love. This book summarizes what you need to learn, and to do to turn on that switch. I wrote from three different points of view. First, as a teacher and researcher in psychology, I spent most of my adult life studying the symptoms of lost love, tortuous love, smothering love, condemning love, controlling love, insufficient love, betrayed love, compulsive love, codependent love. This text is my report from the field: which theories are validated and which are not. Second, I am writing as a therapist who, for many years, listened to the stories of courageous individuals free falling from the summit of love, crashing down into the relational desert of mourning, grief, and loss. While witnessing their despair, I admired their courage. Love, its presence and absence, quality and quantity, form and essence, nurturing and toxic effects, its bitterness, and sweetness, is at the core of every therapy because love is fundamentally liberating. Love is also easily corrupted. Love develops the brain, but heartbreak transforms an otherwise functional adult into a cognitive dimwit. Love attaches itself to our neurotic traits, which then develop like barnacles on the hull of a boat. And last, I am writing as an individual who has suffered her fair share of heartbreaks. As a young woman, I plunged into the cavernous mouth of that mythical beast we call Love, like a frog jumping into the path of a lawnmower. This humbling experience taught me the contrast between the sweetness of love and the tragedy of remaining innocent about its power.

ISBN/SKU: 
9780692574904
Publication Date: 
2015-12-01
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Just Below the Water Line

$15.95

Just Below the Water Line: Selected Poems (2004) seeks to gain access to what is just hidden in life, what is below the level of consciousness but always brewing, always roiling around and seeking to be heard, seen and felt. The range of subject matter is wide and diverse to accommodate as many ways of getting to the bottom of appearances and emotional knots we live within.

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9780970614933
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Imagination and Medicine: The Future of Healing in an Age of Neuroscience

$24.95

In this groundbreaking collection of essays, medical scientists in a number of fields join with practitioners from the fields of non-Western medicine the Asklepieia, body/soul therapies, and dreamwork to explore the intimate relationship between imagination and physical health. By looking at medical science, these scholars, physicians, and healers offer their vision of what medical treatment and psychotherapy might look like in the future. Artists and architects with expertise in health care also describe and present new designs for healing centers that bring together current scientific knowledge and age-old healing practices. This collection will be of great interest to those looking to the future in the fields of therapy, medicine, and the healing professions.

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9781882670628
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The Heroine's Journey

$18.95

This book describes contemporary woman's search for wholeness in a society in which she has been defined according to masculine values. Drawing upon cultural myths and fairy tales, ancient symbols and goddesses, and the dreams of contemporary women, Murdock illustrates the need for—and the reality of—feminine values in Western culture today.

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9780877734857
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Dream Tending with Steve Aizenstat. A Film by Russ Spencer - 53 min. DVD

$19.95

Stephen Aizenstat's groundbreaking DreamTending DVD is an invaluable resource. Dr. Aizenstat's innovative and deeply humanistic approach takes viewers deep into the mysteries their own dream life, revealing a vast untapped source of meaning, tenderness, and understanding. This documentary-style film is enhanced by rare on-camera interviews with Robert Johnson, James Hillman, Marion Woodman, and Michael Meade. In addition, it features a wealth of rich, mythic images that illuminate Dr. Aizenstat's compelling narrative. It is a film filled with ideas, nuance, and valuable information -- all of which become revealed more fully with repeated viewing.

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00035
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Imagining Psychological Life: Philosophical, Psychological & Poetic Reflections -- A Festschrift in Honor of Robert D. Romanyshyn, PH.D. Clinical Sum15

$29.99

There is a thin place where dream and event meet, a pivotal place where, as the poet John Keats once noted, the world is the vale of soul making. Robert D. Romanyshyn's life in psychology has been a journey in the world in search of those threshold places and their momentary epiphanies. Along the way he has come to realize that psychology has been more than a profession he chose. It has been a vocation that chose him. Indeed, he has expressed that, in coming to be a psychologist, he senses at times that he has been in some way following a path coded in his name, Romanyshyn, which means 'son of a gypsy.' He has been a wanderer drawn to those fringe areas where psychology spills into philosophy and poetry, where history and literature percolate with the shared collective dreams of the soul, and where the splendor of the world's simple displays can awaken a forgotten, lost and elemental sense of home. These philosophical, psychological and poetic reflections by former students, colleagues and friends, speak to the ways in which Dr. Romanyshyn's journey has crossed paths with their own. These authors join him in a return home from exile which is never finished.

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9780971567160
Publication Date: 
2014-02-01
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Dream Tending: Awakening to the Healing Power of Dreams - Paperback Book

$19.95
You had the most amazing dream last night. It spoke to your highest aspiration-your most secret wish-and presented a vision of a future that was right for you. But now, in the cold light of day, that inspiring dream is gone forever-or is it? According to Dr. Stephen Aizenstat, a psychotherapist, university professor, and dream specialist, dreams are not just phantoms that pass in the night, but a present living reality that you can engage with and learn from in your daily life. In Dream Tending, Dr. Aizenstat shows how to access the power of your dreams to transform nightmare figures into profound and helpful mentors; bring fresh warmth and intimacy into your relationships; overcome obsessions, compulsions, and addictions; engage healing forces of your dreams through imaginary "medicines"; re-imagine your career and cope with difficulties in the workplace; discover the potential of your untapped creativity; and see the world around you from a new and dynamic perspective.
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9781935528111
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Depth Psychology: Meditations in the Field, Second Edition

$15.95

Developed in the spirit of C.G. Jung, and extended by the work of James Hillman, Depth Psychology: Meditations in the Field grows directly from the soil of the Romantic Movement of the 19th century, itself a rebellion against the legacy of Enlightenment fundamentalism, which emphasized the literal reality of the world, and feasted on Measurement and the quantification of all knowledge.

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9783856307011
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Casting the Shadows: Selected Poems

$13.00

Casting the Shadows: Selected Poems (2001) by Dennis Patrick Slattery is the first of four volumes of poetry by the author. Of this wide assortment of themes, the author writes in the Introduction: “Poetic images, I began to sense, were ways to organize experience along a different pathway in the psyche and in the body. To read or write poetry was indeed a method by which emotion and intellect can create a reality together.” The intent of the volume is to explore the fundamentally poetic nature of the psyche.

Introductory essay plus 91 poems all original and all written by me.

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9780970614902
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Varieties of Mythic Experience: Essays on Religion, Psyche and Culture

$18.00

We need a sense of myth for our individual and collective equilibrium. Sanity itself may be tied to having some kind of lively imagination so that one can feel the strange fantasies that continue to insist themselves into consciousness in both waking and dreaming states.... – from the Foreword by Robert Sardello The essential paradox is this: Myth points to a baseline that can never be fully drawn; there exists no lowest layer for myth. – from the Introduction by Glen Slater and Dennis Patrick Slattery ... rituals in fact do not require complementary myths to ’explain’ them, nor is ritual a ’re-enactment’ of myth, but that rituals speak eloquently in their own right. – from Chapter 3, “Rambu Solo’: the Toraja Cult of the Dead and Embodied Imagination,” by Laura Grillo A myth occurs when the objective reality confuses itself with a subjective reality. The myth is, so to speak, a montage, and montages can lie – but they can inspire as well. A myth can support either revolution or the status quo; it can provoke enthusiasm or repression. – from Chapter 7, “How is Psychology a Mythology?” by Ginette Paris

This book presents contributions from different authors covering the mythical basis for different religions. It also shows how psychology and philosopy have been influenced by myths.

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9783856307257
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