Faculty Publications

Pagan Meditations: The Worlds of Aphrodite, Artemis and Hestia

$22.00

Review By David L. Miller Journal of the American Academy of Religion

Her truly remarkable work on the mythemes of three Greek religious figures is frankly feminist in perspective, but imaginably feminist and polytheistically so. "We are all Greek," she writes (3), and she means by this to include the aphroditic, artemisian, and hestian aspects of men as well as women (192). Paris writes: “There are as many feminisms as goddesses” (199) and she adds: “I do no think of polytheism as superior to monotheism – that would be contradictory” (198). True to these assertions, the text avoids literalisms and nominalisms. …Sensitive to the fact that “it is uninteresting if one only wishes to imitate the Greeks” (172), indeed, was uninteresting as imitatio Christi, Paris’ purpose is to make mythemes available “as a focus for questioning ourselves [individually and socially], for creating images” (172). … The word “meditations” in the title is apt and should be read in the sense associated with Martin Heidegger and Marcus Aurelius. When Heidegger contrasted meditative with calculative thinking in his “Memorial Address” for Conradin Kreutzer in 1955, he claimed for the former the qualities of an “openness for mystery” and a “releasement toward things,” i.e., a humility in the face of the anxiety for certainty and control which could be correlated to a sensitivity for the body experience, qualities Heidegger thought were lacking in the encroaching sociologizing and scientizing of an-aesthetic life and thought in the academy. That Paris’ work is meditative in this Heideggerian sense is especially seen in the way she handles the myth/history problematic. “The entanglement of history and myth is only embarrassing, “ she writes, “when we try at all costs to hold to the facts rather than to the spirit” (157). … Such modality leads Paris, and the reader, into a sensus communis that is reminiscent not only of Heidegger’s characterization, but also of the actual quality of text in the case of Marcus’ Meditations. Like Marcus’ writing, this work is an essay…Indeed to this reviewer that the essay may well represent the mode, more and more, of thinking on the frontier as well as on the margins. One may recall other recent works: Anne Carson’s Eros, an Essay. James Carse’s Finite and Infinite Games, and Susan Sontag’s, essay on Roland Barthes. These move the marbles. Besides Marcus Aurelius, there are Emerson, Montaigne, and the zuihitsu of the fourteenth-century Japanese writer Kenko … Paris’ book belongs to this company of the scholarly essay… This book is not without passion and body … In fact, this meditative essay, in the view of this reader, demonstrates its author’s saying: “More complexity, fewer complexes.”


This book is Paris's contribution to "imaginative" feminism.

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9780882143309
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Gleanings: Essays 1982 to 2006

$22.95

Gleanings is a gathering of hitherto uncollected essays written by Christine Downing during the quarter century since the publication in 1981 of her seminal book, The Goddess: Mythological Images of the Feminine. Many of the essays continue her exploration of Greek goddess traditions and other aspects of Greek mythology. Others grow out of her ongoing involvement with the thought of both Freud and Jung. The interrelationship between polis and psyche, city and soul, is a central theme of several of these papers, including those that focus on the Holocaust. Various facets of lesbian and gay experience are also examined.

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9780595400362
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Mapping the Organizational Psyche: A Jungian Theory of Organizational Dynamics and Change

$15.00

In the midst of self-reflection and restructuring, today’s corporate culture is ready for sweeping change and innovation. Mapping the Organizational Psyche offers courageous business leaders the opportunity to delve deeper into the corporate consciousness. Taking a cue from C.J. Jung’s work on the collective unconscious, authors John G. Corlett and Carol S. Pearson examine the organizational psyche and pose solutions to complex challenges through the use of archetypal concepts. Included is a workbook section that allows readers to assess their own organizations.

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9780935652697
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ANALYTICAL PSYCHOLOGY CONTEMPORARY PERSPECTIVES IN JUNGIAN P-track W14, Clin W16 POD 30% Routledge see misc before ordering

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$42.95

The Jungian approach to analysis and psychotherapy has been undergoing an extensive reconsideration during the past decade. Analytical Psychology calls special attention to the areas that have been most impacted: the core concepts and practices of the Jungian tradition, along with relevant intellectual and historical background.

Internationally renowned authors drawing on the forefront of advance in neuroscience, evolution, psychoanalysis, and philosophical and historical studies, provide an overview of the most important aspects of these developments. Beginning with a chronicle of the history of the Jungian movement, areas covered include:

* a background to the notion of 'archetype'
* human development from a Jungian perspective
* the creative extension of Jung's theory of psychological types
* re-evaluation of traditional Jungian methods of treatment in the light of contemporary scientific findings
* Jungian development of transference and countertransference
* a new formulation of synchronicity.

Analytical Psychology presents a unique opportunity to witness a school of psychotherapy going through a renaissance. Drawing on original insights from its founder, C.G. Jung, this book helps focus and shape the current state of analytical psychology and point to areas for future exploration.

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9781583919996
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2004-09-26
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Twisted Sky: Selected Poems

$14.95

Twisted Sky: Selected Poems (2007) comes in large measure from the natural world, personal experience and philosophic musings. The author writes in his Introduction: “Not just nature, but wildness itself [are] metaphors of the irrational in the human soul and as an image sign system infused with religious divinity and human passion.”

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Art of Inquiry: A Depth Psychological Perspective, 2nd Revised Edition

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What is the relationship between the psyche and the inquiring mind? In this clear and readable book, authors Coppin and Nelson show that research guided by the soul is rich, passionate and meaningful. Borrowing from their expertise as scholars and teachers, they blend philosophy and practice to describe what scholarly research undertaken from the perspective of the soul might look like and to account for the exceptional experience of psychological inquiry at its best. The Art of inquiry is destined to become a new standard text in depth psychology.

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9780882145594
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LONGING FOR A LAND ADJUNCT RECC ADJUNCT RECC FALL 2010 Clin W16 PsyD W16

$15.00
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9780974531717
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Leaning Toward the Poet Eavesdropping on the Poetry of Everyday Life

$13.95

In Leaning toward the Poet: Eavesdropping on the Poetry of Everyday Life, Robert Romanyshyn writes in a poetic style about the splendor and simplicity of life. From the light on a summer morning to the appeal of an empty bench, he talks about the miracle of the mundane moments in life that are present, for example, in a spider's web or a smile on the face of a stranger. In an age of information overload and diminishing time spent on the simple things in life, Leaning toward the Poet is an invitation to slow down and pause to attend to those occasions when memory and imagination lead one to unexpected occurrences that make us think about and appreciate what is happening around us.

A memoir written by a psychologist, Leaning Toward the Poet awakens us to the poetic qualities of everyday life. Its words and images feel like a homecoming.

Sitting with V in the Morning

It always starts the same way, with hot coffee, buttered toast, and the newspaper, bought every morning, set out on the table.

I like these few moments of silence before V joins me in the garden. I like especially the cloudy mornings, when the trees and flowers in the garden are still asleep, their vibrant green still folded inside the darkness of the night, and the birds are still at rest...

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9781491747247
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2014-11-01
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Trauma Healing and Transformation CLE SP14,15,16

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$29.00
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0615114849
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Jung as a Writer

$42.95

Jung as a Writer traces a relationship between Jung and literature by analysing his texts using the methodology of literary theory. This investigation serves to illuminate the literary nature of Jung’s writing in order to shed new light on his psychology and its relationship with literature as a cultural practice.

Jung employed literary devices throughout his writing, including direct and indirect argument, anecdote, fantasy, myth, epic, textual analysis and metaphor. Susan Rowland examines Jung’s use of literary techniques in several of his works, including Anima and Animus, On the Nature of the Psyche, Psychology and Alchemy and Synchronicity and describes Jung’s need for literature in order to capture in writing his ideas about the unconscious. Jung as a Writer succeeds in demonstrating Jung’s contribution to literary and cultural theory in autobiography, gender studies, postmodernism, feminism, deconstruction and hermeneutics and concludes by giving a new culturally-orientated Jungian criticism.

The application of literary theory to Jung’s works provides a new perspective on Jungian Psychology that will be of interest to anyone involved in the study of Jung, Psychoanalysis, literary theory and cultural studies.

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9781583919026
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Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors Can Help "Bad Boys" Become Good Men

$29.00

Writing from personal and professional experience, Aaron Kipnis shares both the riveting story of his own troubled youth-and how he turned himself around-and the successful approaches he has used to help "bad boys" become good men. Angry Young Men offers specific, practical advice for parents, teachers, counselors, community leaders, and justice professionals-- everyone who wants to help at-risk boys become strong, productive, caring, and compassionate men. "Angry Young Men is an extremely important book that is especially timely now during our current epidemic of violence by and against boys and young men . . . Aaron Kipnis has seen deeply, not only into the souls of troubled boys and adolescents, but also into those aspects of the spirit of our culture and our epoch that have turned an unprecedentedly large portion of our boys and young men into the perpetrators and victims of violence." --From the Foreword by James Gilligan, M.D., Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School

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9780787960438
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Waking Up from War: A Better Way Home for Veterans and Nations

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$25.95

Voices and stories of veterans, their families, and their care providers, reveal what is necessary for postwar healing

This book argues that the elements that contribute to healing war trauma--including safety, connection, community, dialogue, mutual respect, diversity, and compassion--can help build a stronger nation. But this message comes with a warning and a challenge not just for caregivers, veterans service organizations, governmental departments, Congress, and the White House, but for all Americans. War creates incalculable suffering--not only among those on the front lines, but also among those left behind. For every soldier killed or injured on the battlefield, countless others are affected--particularly relatives and friends--often in isolation and silence. As a nation, the U.S. must do everything it can to repair the injuries caused by war, whether physical, emotional, or moral, both for those who served in Iraq, Afghanistan, and elsewhere, and for the country itself. Only after the nation provides the top-quality care our veterans have earned will we be able to begin to end our reliance on war and truly build a durable peace.

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9781634310321
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2015-11-01
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Quadrant V44 #1 Winter 2014 Walter Odajnyk Tribute

$16.00
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Jung on Astrology Selected by Keiron Le Grice and Safron Rossi

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$52.95

Jung on Astrology brings together C. G. Jung's thoughts on astrology in a single volume for the first time, significantly adding to our understanding of Jung's work.

Jung's Collected Works, seminars, and letters contain numerous discussions of this ancient divinatory system, and Jung himself used astrological horoscopes as a diagnostic tool in his analytic practice. Understood in terms of his own psychology as a symbolic representation of the archetypes of the collective unconscious, Jung found in astrology a wealth of spiritual and psychological meaning and suggested it represents the "sum of all the psychological knowledge of antiquity."

The selections and editorial introductions by Safron Rossi and Keiron Le Grice address topics that were of critical importance to Jung--such as the archetypal symbolism in astrology, the precession of the equinoxes and astrological ages, astrology as a form of synchronicity and acausal correspondence, the qualitative nature of time, and the experience of astrological fate--allowing readers to assess astrology's place within the larger corpus of Jung's work and its value as a source of symbolic meaning for our time.

The book will be of great interest to analytical psychologists, Jungian psychotherapists and academics and students of depth psychology, Jungian and post-Jungian studies, as well as to astrologers and therapists of other orientations, especially transpersonal.

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9781138230736
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2017-11-01
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Sleuth and the Goddess: Hestia, Artemis, Athena, And Aphrodite in Women's Detective Fiction

$32.95

260 pp.

Detective fiction is compelling–once started it has to be finished: The Sleuth and the Goddessis no less gripping. In this riveting book Susan Rowland is part detective, part analyst, and always a brilliant literary critic.  She adroitly reveals how detection is one of the central myths of the modern psyche.  The crime scenes she investigates reveal their psychological and literary clues to show how the re-emergence of the sacred feminine is at the center of women’s mystery detective stories.  Never cozy, never hardboiled, this is cultural psychology at its very best.
Dr. Luke Hockley, psychotherapist and Professor of Media Analysis, University of Bedfordshire, UK, author of Somatic Cinema
With The Sleuth and the Goddess, Susan Rowland joins the rarefied pantheon of women writers that includes Jane Harrison, who a century ago in her magnificent work Themis, explored the archetypal world of the pre-patriarchal goddesses of ancient Greece. Likewise, Rowland has ventured behind the veil of the contemporary detective story and finds that the ancient goddesses are alive and well in the psyches of modern women detective authors and their heroines. Both Harrison and Rowland became detectives in their own right and render a great service for the goddesses in ancient and modern form.
Thomas Singer, M.D., Editor of the Cultural Complex Series
Rowland shows us the endless incarnations of ancient goddesses – Athena, Artemis, Hestia, Aphrodite, Psyche and Persephone – in women’s mystery narratives. Meticulously researched and brilliantly written, The Sleuth and the Goddess argues that fiction – the mythology of today – responds with proactive, investigating, justice-seeking, curious and creative women to the social and political changes in contemporary society. As the feminine spirit re-emerges, the sleuth heals the fragmented modern psyche by reconciling it with the unconscious and the archetypal. Topical and timely, this book is Jungian feminism at its best.
Dr. Helena Bassil-Morozow, Cultural Philosopher and Film Academic, author of The Trickster in Contemporary Film
By illuminating the presence of the Goddess in the incarnation and creation of character, Dr. Susan Rowland brings a fresh and exciting perspective to the study of archetypes in women’s literature. She makes us aware of the enduring influence of the Goddess in one of the most powerful and compelling areas of literary endeavor-the development of the mystery novel.
Jacqueline Winspear, author of the novels featuring psychologist and investigator, Maisie Dobb
About the Author:
Susan Rowland, Ph.D., is Chair of the M. A. in Engaged Humanities and the Creative Life at Pacifica Graduate Institute, California. Author of many books on Jung, the feminine, literature and literary theory, her recent work includes C. G. Jung in the Humanities: Taking the Soul’s Path (2010) and The Ecocritical Psyche: Literature, Evolutionary Complexity and Jung (2012). She lives in California with her husband, the digital literary artist and poet, Joel Weishaus. 
 
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9781935528708
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Elemental Movement: A Somatic Approach to Movement Education

$33.95

This thesis describes the theory and methods of an original somatic approach to movement education. Based on the five Elements of ancient philosophical tradition, Elemental Movement integrates somatic and alchemical principles, processes, and practice. It employs movement as the primary vehicle for a wide range of personal explorations, using the Elements both as a framework and as a set of symbolic tools.

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9781581121322
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2001-10-01
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Feathered Ladder Selected Poems

$22.00

Two volumes of poetry have been combined in this special edition il piccolo publication.

"Brian Landis is a master storyteller; Dennis Patrick Slattery a master teacher in the art of writing myth. Both are skillful poets who have teamed to produce this refined volume of poetry. Feathered Ladder speaks brilliantly to me." —From the Foreword by Stephanie Pope, Cultural Mythologer and poet — mythopoetry.com

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1771690127
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Up Against the Wall Re-Imagining the U.S.-Mexico Border

$27.95

As increasing global economic disparities, violence, and climate change provoke a rising tide of forced migration, many countries and local communities are responding by building walls—literal and metaphorical—between citizens and newcomers. Up Against the Wall: Re-imagining the U.S.-Mexico Border examines the temptation to construct such walls through a penetrating analysis of the U.S. wall at the U.S.-Mexico border, as well as investigating the walling out of Mexicans in local communities. Calling into question the building of a wall against a friendly neighboring nation, Up Against the Wall offers an analysis of the differences between borders and boundaries. This analysis opens the way to envisioning alternatives to the stark and policed divisions that are imposed by walls of all kinds. Tracing the consequences of imperialism and colonization as citizens grapple with new migrant neighbors, the book paints compelling examples from key locales affected by the wall—Nogales, Arizona vs. Nogales, Sonora; Tijuana/San Diego; and the lower Rio Grande Valley of Texas. An extended case study of Santa Barbara describes the creation of an internal colony in the aftermath of the U.S. conquest of Mexican land, a history that is relevant to many U.S. cities and towns.

Ranging from human rights issues in the wake of massive global migration to the role of national restorative shame in the United States for the treatment of Mexicans since 1848, the authors delve into the broad repercussions of the unjust and often tragic consequences of excluding others through walled structures along with the withholding of citizenship and full societal inclusion. Through the lens of a detailed examination of forced migration from Mexico to the United States, this transdisciplinary text, drawing on philosophy, psychology, and political theory, opens up multiple insights into how nations and communities can coexist with more justice and more compassion.

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9780292759381
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2014-09-01
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The Wounded Researcher: Research with Soul in Mind

$24.95

 

Online review by Dennis Patrick Slattery:

http://mythopoetry.com/mythopoetics/review_romanyshyn_slattery.html


What is the art of doing research that keeps soul in mind? The Wounded Researcher addresses (1) how an imaginal approach to the research process differentiates soul from the complex of psychology (2) how re-search is a vocation in which a topic chooses a researcher through his or her complexes (3) how engaging in transference dialogues helps to differentiate a researcher's complexes about the work from the soul of the work (4) how an alchemical hermeneutic method opens a space for the soul of the work (5) how this process and method have implications for how one writes down the soul of the work in writing up one's research and (6) how this imaginal approach to research that keeps soul in mind lays the foundations for an ethical epistemology.
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9781882670475
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Technology as Symptom and Dream

$39.95

This book, which has been reprinted four times since its publication, is a cultural-historical exploration of the origins of the technological attitude that has shaped the contemporary world. Relying on the work of J.H. van den Berg, it shows how the invention of linear perspective art in the 15th century has become a cultural habit of mind. Within this shared collective dream, the self behind a window becomes a spectator who, with its eye upon the world, takes leave of the body's sensuous ties to the world, which opens the path toward the body becoming a specimen for the anatomical gaze and for the world becoming a spectacle to be mapped and measured. Approached as a collective symptom, the book is a work against forgetting, a work of returning to origins to recover technology as a cultural and historical achievement that allows us to appreciate its values and its limits. In this regard, the book is an example of how phenomenology can be the practice of a cultural therapeutics.


 


The development of linear perspective in the 15th century represented a radical transformation in the European's sense of the world, the body and the self. Robert Romanyshyn's latest book examines the claim that the development of linear perspective vision was and is indispensable to the emergence of our technological world. It does so by telling the story of how an artistic technique has become a cultural habit of mind.

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9780415007870
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Psyche and the Arts: Jungian Approaches to Music, Architecture, Literature, Painting and Film

$42.95

Does art connect the individual psyche to history and culture?

Psyche and the Arts challenges existing ideas about the relationship between Jung and art, and offers exciting new dimensions to key issues such as the role of image in popular culture, and the division of psyche and matter in art form.

Divided into three sections - Getting into Art, Challenging the Critical Space and Interpreting Art in the World - the text shows how Jungian ideas can work with the arts to illuminate both psychological theory and aesthetic response. Psyche and the Arts offers new critical visions of literature, film, music, architecture and painting, as something alive in the experience of creators and audiences challenging previous Jungian criticism. This approach demonstrates Jung’s own belief that art is a healing response to collective cultural norms.

This diverse yet focused collection from international contributors invites the reader to seek personal and cultural value in the arts, and will be essential reading for Jungian analysts, trainees and those more generally interested in the arts.

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9780415438360
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Heartbreak - Volume 2: The Brain in Love

$11.99

Heartbreak is a triple loss At first, the physical absence of the partner seems like the only cause of our suffering and one is under the illusion that if he or she would only come back, all would be fine again. It is truly an illusion because there are three absentees in the drama of heartbreak. The first is the beloved, and even if that person were to come back, the second, the person you were with the beloved, and the third, the person you were for the beloved, are never coming back. This triple loss explains the loss of a sense of identity. Individuals suffering heartbreak have nightmares of losing their nametag, passport, car keys, of being lost in a strange city, of walking in a cemetery and reading their name on a funeral monument, of having no voice, no head, no body, of coming to work and somebody else's name is on the door of their office, or coming home and their mother asks them to introduce themselves... all are metaphors of an estrangement from the self. The only solution is to become somebody else. Philosophers have argued that our identity is a psychosocial construct, a compromise between what our parents want, what society wants, and what we think we want. Since identity is a construct, it follows that is can be deconstructed. The myth of the divine rights of kings is a perfect example of a deconstructionist attack on a value that was no longer sustainable. Heartbreak is a similar demolition derby of an obsolete identity. The lover, a mirror who used to reflect a positive image of yourself, now reflects nothing, or if it does, it is a tarnished, ugly picture that communicates, "sorry, but you are no longer adequate." The identity built to attract and relate to the partner is a dead cable connector. Heartbreak is such a rough deconstruction that it is felt at first like a death of the self. There is a word for that feeling: alienation, which means a separation from oneself. This book helps you answer the following question: "if I cannot be who I was, who can I become?" Invent, discover, imagine, try, and become that new person. Table of Content CHAPTER 1 BYPASS YOUR SYNAPTIC BUNDLE OF FEAR The three actors in your drama Your crocodile psychology: grab, grip, hit There you are my crocodile! Your puppy psychology: beg, whine, wait. Your regression to a preverbal vulnerability Attachment theories There you are my puppy! The wolf separated from the pack the broken heart syndrome The art of consoling Neuromania and Darwinitis Is it in my genes, my brain or my soul? Becoming a wise human The inner and the outer CHAPTER 2 NEUROSCIENCE AND THE UNCONSCIOUS My life in a copter The end of the behaviorist dominance You can't repair the past The slave complex No ego, no Self, no identity. CHAPTER 3 WHAT YOU MOTHER NEVER TOLD YOU I am a champion procrastinator I am dependent but won't admit it I feel inadequate but cover it with uppityness Unload some projections CHAPTER 4 AH! JEALOUSY Rivalry can be a factor of evolution You don't own the partner Beware of psychic inflation There is a way around jealousy Is it envy or jealousy? CHAPTER 5 RELATIONSHIP ADDICTION The realm of the invisible Heartbreak is a triple loss CHAPTER 6 NARCISSISM: A TREND AND A CURSE The rage of a baby Learn to smell a narcissist The narcissist as a self-loathing individual The narcissist as a self-adoring individual The trophy partner: narcissism by another name Monica, the figid beauty queen The cashmere label

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9780692587850
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2015-12-01
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Red Place Transforming Past Traumas Through Relationships

$14.95

Most of us encounter trauma at some point in our lives, whether directly through our own experiences or indirectly through relationships with trauma victims. Hale describes these encounters as journeys to “The Red Place”––an emotionally intense state of being often beyond conscious awareness that contains both the heroic and the monstrous aspects of past violations, a place where we can both experience the pain of trauma and find the strength to cope with it. This book courageously delves into the psychological complexities of the Red Place by analyzing stories of trauma––from myths passed down by ancient people, to modern films and novels, to real-life case studies from her own work as a psychotherapist. With clarity and compassion, Hale reveals how empathic connections in both personal and professional relationships have the power to heal in the aftermath of trauma. Such relationships, she demonstrates, can help us harness the generative forces of the Red Place rather than being led by its destructive ones. The Red Place is an invaluable source of insight, support, and inspiration for all those working to resolve and transform past traumas.

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9781908995087
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2014-10-01
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Just Below the Water Line

$15.95

Just Below the Water Line: Selected Poems (2004) seeks to gain access to what is just hidden in life, what is below the level of consciousness but always brewing, always roiling around and seeking to be heard, seen and felt. The range of subject matter is wide and diverse to accommodate as many ways of getting to the bottom of appearances and emotional knots we live within.

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9780970614933
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Heartbreak - Volume 1: Detatch or Die

$15.99

The psychosomatic pain of heartbreak and mourning shows neurobiological evidence of stress similar to being submitted to torture. With time, the intensity of the pain may lessen, yet it is false to think that time heals all wounds! Many live the rest of their life with a captive heart, alone in the emotional desert of psychic numbness. The first challenge is to become aware of the instinctual fear that makes us say "if you leave me, I'll-die." This fear poses a logical problem because to overcome it, you must learn to survive without the partner, which is precisely what you fear! You are like a patient who has been shot by an arrow? Cupid's arrow ?but is afraid to let the doctor pull it out. Living with an arrow sticking out from your chest makes life impossible. Recovery is not, as so many popular self-help books suggest today, an ego decision to move on. Recovery is the opposite of a willful decision, the opposite of an emotional shutting down which only mimics detachment. At the beginning of heartbreak, the brain reacts like that of a drug addict suddenly deprived of his or her drug. The behavior of the love-crazy is similar to that of the addict desperately searching for a fix. Hooked on hope, your brain is in a panic mode. Love is at the core of depressive, suicidal and murderous states. For the brain, lack of love, lack of food, lack of sleep, or a pit bull jumping at you are all kinds of threats. How you respond impacts not only your health but your destiny as well. In other words, either emotional suffering turns on the evolutionary switch, or your emotional shutting will destroy your capacity to love. This book summarizes what you need to learn, and to do to turn on that switch. I wrote from three different points of view. First, as a teacher and researcher in psychology, I spent most of my adult life studying the symptoms of lost love, tortuous love, smothering love, condemning love, controlling love, insufficient love, betrayed love, compulsive love, codependent love. This text is my report from the field: which theories are validated and which are not. Second, I am writing as a therapist who, for many years, listened to the stories of courageous individuals free falling from the summit of love, crashing down into the relational desert of mourning, grief, and loss. While witnessing their despair, I admired their courage. Love, its presence and absence, quality and quantity, form and essence, nurturing and toxic effects, its bitterness, and sweetness, is at the core of every therapy because love is fundamentally liberating. Love is also easily corrupted. Love develops the brain, but heartbreak transforms an otherwise functional adult into a cognitive dimwit. Love attaches itself to our neurotic traits, which then develop like barnacles on the hull of a boat. And last, I am writing as an individual who has suffered her fair share of heartbreaks. As a young woman, I plunged into the cavernous mouth of that mythical beast we call Love, like a frog jumping into the path of a lawnmower. This humbling experience taught me the contrast between the sweetness of love and the tragedy of remaining innocent about its power.

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9780692574904
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2015-12-01
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